"SaY": Whose project is it, anyway?
When teachers assign projects, parents are often unsure how much to help and end up doing way too much, particularly if the child seems overwhelmed.
Imagine that you’re 8 years old and you’ve just been asked by your teacher to make a diorama of a village.
Over the weekend you dig up an empty shoe box. You ask your parents for ideas on how to make tents and rocks and trees. You “borrow” your brother’s toy forest animals. By Sunday evening, you’ve assembled, glued and painted a humble and adorable replica of a village.
The next morning you enter your classroom with your handiwork, only to be confronted by a 3-foot-by-4-foot rendition of an enormous village, complete with a working waterfall and 50 intricate tiny tents. Instantly, you know that this is the work of some overzealous mother, with the child working as the assistant.
Your heart sinks as you ditch your diorama under your desk. You join an ever growing group of awestruck children gathering round this massive attraction.
Sadly, similar dramas unfold with unfailing regularity in schools around the country. And, we may wonder, is it worse for the kid who didn’t make the fancy diorama or for the kid who did (and must live with the fact that everyone knows she didn’t actually make it)?
This is one of the trickier aspects of parenting: How far should a parent go to help their child with a project? At a time when many teachers are desperate to get parents involved in their children’s education, there are others contending with the opposite problem: parents who want so much for their children to succeed that they regard the child’s homework as their own.
A teacher’s advice: “We want to see what the children can do themselves.”
A teacher notes, “We do have guidelines for parents now, but you have to be careful how you word it. Basically we say it has to be the child’s original work. It can get kind of touchy if you don’t think it’s the child’s original work and they’re telling you it is. However, if you have the child in your classroom, you’re pretty aware of what they’re able to do on their own.”
“We’re a little bit loose with that when the children are 8 or 9 years old,” she adds. “We know that they have to have some guidance and we’re happy to have the parent involved. It’s just difficult for parents to know when to let the child take over.”
In the classroom the children are asked to make a milestone chart as one of their projects.
“They have to do a timeline of their life,” she says, “and of course being only 9 years old they have to have a lot of their parents’ input, only because they’re not going to remember a lot of the milestones. I have some children that, even though the parents give them the information, are allowed to put it together in a format that you can tell is the child’s idea. But then some come in with work that is all computer printed and with clip art, and it’s obvious that the child had very little to do with it.”
To combat the tendency some parents have to get over-involved in a project, teachers have started having their students do their projects in the classroom.
“Projects are my chance to see them spark,” she the teacher. “To see them sparkle and be creative, because everything else is ‘this is what we need to know’ and facts, facts, facts. So it’s fun to see them cooperate with each other. It’s fun to see who becomes a leader.”
A psychological perspective
Teachers point out that kids can suffer when parents are either too involved or not involved enough. “There could be a negative side of demoralisation for school kids based on the perception that projects, be they science projects or art projects or even written work, are at an especially mature level and that obviously there was more parental participation than they might have had,” he says.
“On the other hand, the other extreme is where parents have no involvement in encouraging their kids to be on schedule, in doing some editing of written work. Or there’s no involvement in helping them if they have some art concept in their mind, in helping them to get art supplies and not asking them to make something out of scotch tape and chewing gum, but bringing them to an art supply store where they might be able to get some clay in different colors.”
“That kind of participation is a very positive thing. It encourages the kids and opens up an understanding and capabilities for them to express themselves more.”
An easy way for teachers to see if the children have really done the presentation themselves if to have them talk in front of their peers and explain what they did and explain why it’s important. It’s really hard to fake it there or to have parental involvement dominate in an oral presentation.
That’s where the added value really comes in. How do you communicate the topic that you did to your peers?
Recent studies conducted at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign suggest that parents can best support their children’s learning by refraining from becoming too involved. The optimal approach is to encourage children to do their own work. As tempting as it may be to rush in and get the job taken care of, or as much fun as the science project may be when you’re an adult, or as desirable as it is to help a child to be a classroom star, the long term effect of such actions is to cause children to disengage from the learning process.
Helping your child with a project
You can help define ideas for a project, but let your child make most of the decisions.
Purchase necessary supplies for the project, but don’t spend large amounts of money. Help your child brainstorm less expensive ways to make parts of the project if his plans are bigger than your budget.
Help your child break down a complicated project into smaller sections to help her schedule her time.
Be available for editing and proofreading.
For the middle and high school student, if possible, help make connections in the community for resources and advice.
What’s not appropriate:
Don’t do the project yourself (with your child as your assistant).
Don’t outspend the other parents in the classroom by a wide margin. Ask the teacher what is expected of you financially.
Don’t take away your child’s independence and ownership of the project.
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